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The less I talk = the further from the relationship I am

On: August 3, 2019

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I am a very verbal person and I don’t pull any punches about that fact. I need that verbal connection and I need it regularly. I honestly tell everyone that the more I feel unable to communicate with a person the more out of the relationship I will be. LeoContinue Reading

Last ditch effort

On: July 31, 2019

In: Personal

Tagged: 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, 40 something single mom and dating, 40 something single mom and hating the dating, avoidance, being lied to, can heartbreak cause actual heartbreak, Dating as a single mom, Dating in your 40s, Dating Sucks, family, Family fun, great sex, lack of communication, Lasting Relationships, learning the ropes of dating in your 40s, Leo, Longing for something, Loss, love, Love Games, love is difficult when you are planning for the leave, neglectful relationship, Neglectful Relationships, redirection, relationship, relationship goals, relationships, Respect, single mom, single mom dating, single mom trying to date, summer of Leo

Black and white: I think of relationships like this… If a couple loves each other -> I love you, think you love me. If a couple can agree on the fundamentals (not in order of importance): Lifestyle (Housing, cleanliness, personal hygiene, etc) Children (parenting styles, discipline, priorities, etc) Future (goalsContinue Reading

Tired of the avoidance and redirection…

On: July 15, 2019

In: Personal

So Leo and I have been dating almost 6 months now… We have had a ton of great laughs, great sex, fun family times, and amazingly long depthful talks. It has been a wonderful time BUT in every relationship progress needs to happen, “real” discussions need to occur, bare transparencyContinue Reading

Ever been completely honest about what you want only to have people act oblivious about what you want…

On: July 11, 2019

In: Personal

Tagged: 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, dating, dating a guy who just isnt into you, Dating as a single mom, Dating in your 40s, Dating Sucks, kisses, Lasting Relationships, learning the ropes of dating in your 40s, Leo, need kisses, needing to be kissed, Neglected, neglectful relationship, Neglectful Relationships, relationship, relationships, sex, sex with a guy who doesnt want you, single mom dating, single mom trying to date, summer flings, summer of Leo

I have never been a bullshiter. I am very good at saying what I need and want from the people around me. With that in mind if I say I need communication, regular kisses, regular sex, 2+ nights a week sleeping together… I will give clarification if needed but thenContinue Reading

Then you call…

On: July 11, 2019

In: Personal

Tagged: 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, dating, dating a guy who just isnt into you, Dating as a single mom, Dating in your 40s, Dating Sucks, Lasting Relationships, learning the ropes of dating in your 40s, Leo, Neglected, neglectful relationship, Neglectful Relationships, relationship, relationships, sex, sex with a guy who doesnt want you, single mom dating, single mom trying to date, summer flings, summer of Leo

After 1 minute that lasted 8+ hours Leo calls me and while I am agitated at things from my day it didn’t help that you got upset at every word I said! Then I was an asshole and abruptly got off the phone: Okay have a good night, phone hangup!Continue Reading

3 steps forward… 2 steps back… every time without fail

On: July 10, 2019

In: Personal

Tagged: 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, dating, dating a guy who just isnt into you, Dating as a single mom, Dating in your 40s, Dating Sucks, Digital Relationships, Digital Relationships vs Real Life Relationships, family, Having a Family, Lasting Relationships, learning the ropes of dating in your 40s, Leo, marriage and family, Neglected, neglectful relationship, Neglectful Relationships, relationship, relationships, sex, sex with a guy who doesnt want you, single mom dating, single mom trying to date, summer flings, summer of Leo

Every time I feel like we are making progress he does something so clearly to make me feel like no progress has been made. Perfect example: Several nights in a row he has called, and showed up… He even surprised me with dinner the one night. Both nights he fellContinue Reading

3rd of July ring of fire excitement…

On: July 4, 2019

In: Personal

Tagged: 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, 40 something single mom and dating, 40 something single mom and hating the dating, 4th of July, all the funny crazy things that happen when you are a single mom trying to date in your 40s, Begin Again, can heartbreak cause actual heartbreak, Chemistry, Chrissy, communication, dating a guy who just isnt into you, Dating as a single mom, Dating in 2010s, Dating in your 40s, Dating Sucks, family, Family Fireworks, Family fun, Family night out, Finding love, Finding my filling, Fireworks, Fourth of July, Fun, getting married, getting out of the house, goals, great laughs, great sex, hard to love, hating dating, Hating the dating, Having a Family, having some fun, Heartbreak, hes just not that into you, honesty, how to destroy love for a person that hurts you, investing in love, kiss, kisses, lack of communication, Lasting Relationships, learning the ropes of dating in your 40s, Learning to love, Leo, life goals, Longing for something, love, Love Games, love is difficult when you are planning for the leave, marriage, marriage and family, mixed signals, need kisses, needing to be kissed, Neglected, neglectful relationship, Neglectful Relationships, Playing with my heart, Preparing to be hurt, Protecting my heart, redirection, relationship, relationship goals, Respect, ring of fire, sex, sex with a guy who doesnt want you, sex with no orgasm, single mode, single mom, single mom dating, single mom trying to date, summer flings, summer fun, summer of Leo, talking, The Leave, Trust

It has been a straining several days and I wasn’t looking forward to the awkward drive from my house to the lake 50 minutes away with Leo and the kids. Leo has been avoiding relationship discussions for weeks now and as we are at the 6 month period I feltContinue Reading