Leon’s parents were married in the ’70s and had 3 children. Leon is the older of three boys. His two brothers are 10 and 11 years younger than him.
His Dad, we call him Big JW, is a GM lifer who is a full-on patriarch. He uses his money to buy time, love, and connection. He is in his early 70’s.
His Mom is manipulative, codependent, and emotionally abusive. She does things like calling her son and saying “You don’t love me anymore!” or calls me saying “he doesn’t come over and clean my house. He doesn’t love me anymore! He doesn’t want to see me!” She is in her early 70’s.
His middle brother is a functioning alcoholic who is married with three kids and constantly high on maryjane. He is the most put-together one in the whole family. He is in his early 40’s.
His baby brother is an unemployed high constantly musician. He has one son who lives with his ex and her husband. He is a year younger than the middle brother.
Leon and I have been together for several years and during this time we have been blessed to have a lot of time with his family. I have thrown regular Easter, Father’s day, birthday, Thanksgiving, and family dinners. All of them seemed like they loved me until last year around Halloween.
Last year, baby brother, ordered me to not be friends with his ex with whom he introduced me. She friend requested me on Facebook and I accepted. Then I made a few jokes here and there when she would post. (I do NOT drink typically. I actually might drink 1-3 small drinks a year) I replied to her post and said we should day drink. Most of my friends thought it was hysterical because they know I do not drink at all. BB (Baby brother) got all twisted and called me ordering me to never speak to her again. I am not allowed to ever talk to her. At that point I had already sent her a message because I toured her house and loved her home gym. I asked her about it. Well she answered me and I was kind and silly with her. Next thing I know he called me freaking out. At this point the family stopped speaking to me. His mom spoke to me at least once a day but after this she really never treated me the same. His Dad called me a liar and blamed me for causing BB problems. It all got blamed on me and I was shunned.
BB however did treat me with respect at family events and still seemed to love my kids! After some time we worked things out. Neither of us had done anything that created a breakdown between our relationships. My relationships with his parents was different however because they ghosted me completely. Totally disconnecting from someone who you claim to care for is destructive to relationships.
Then this year everything went completely into the trash. There was the incident at the ice cream shop and then the incident at Seabreeze amusement park. Oh and of course the miserable time at the bowling alley.