Tonight when Leo finally called me back I asked him if he wanted to go to the movies at 9 pm to see the new Seth Rogan Comedy – Long Shot.
He ordered the tickets and so I guess we are meeting there and going to see a movie together tonight.
Leo really is a great guy in so many ways:
- He is patient
- He is smart
- He is funny
- He is handsome
- He has a wonderful family
- He is great in bed
- He is responsible
- He is respectful
- He loves kids
- He is really good with kids
- He has great financial potential
- He loves taking trips with the kids (HUGE PLUS)
- He is fun to spend time with and talk to
- He is a lot like me which helps us understand one another and our anxiety issues
- He has similar goals, wants, and desires
- He usually just makes my day better and helps me to be a happier me
BUT… Leo really sucks in so many ways that I am not sure I can get past:
- He constantly talks about his ex Chrissy
- He doesn’t plan things
- He does not seem like he will ever change the trajectory of our relationship… Meaning we will stay in dating land
- He doesn’t do the things he says he will more often than not
- He doesn’t want to merge our lives in key areas
- He doesn’t want to ever talk about money
- He seems to have no intention of ever discussing future life plans as a couple
- He is constantly talking smack about me which I don’t typically mind but he does it while we are trying to have serious discussions which makes communication difficult at times
- He doesn’t do for me the way he should
- He is more of a taker than a mutual giver
- He knows he should spend more time with me but as he says: “I know I should be spending time with you right now but I just really want to _________ (fill in the blank)”
What do I want and what can I compromise on?
Maybe I need to really think about this question.
Needs/Requirements:
- Honesty
- Loyalty
- Compassion
- Patience
- Communication
- Love for my kids
- Wanting to plan for a future together
- Showing regular ability to do what he says
- Wanting to do for me and actually doing for me
- Romance a bit
- Physical contact and the need/enjoyment of the physical contact with me no matter what the situation