This morning I caught a movie I haven’t watched in a long time: Someone Like You… This movie starts out with a discussion about the “old cow vs new cow” theory. This got me really thinking about the last year of my life and several statements that have been made to me in conversation… Dissection of this phrase/statement.
“old cow vs new cow” theory
By Carine Bongadu
There is an assumption that goes by the appellation “The Old Cow Theory”. This theory supposedly came up after a little experiment with a bull. The bull was locked in with a cow that he gladly mated with. The next day, that same cow was brought to the bull but this animal refused to go near the old cow.
The old cow was taken away and rubbed with the scent of another cow and then sent back to the bull that still refused to touch the old cow. But when another cow was brought to the bull, he gladly mated with the new cow. The Old Cow Theory, therefore, states that a bull will mate only once, never twice with the same cow.
You may want to use this theory to explain why men find it difficult to stay faithful to a woman. Some men would say, ‘you can’t eat rice everyday. You have to try achu or ndole once in a while.’ I almost dated a guy who compared me to Coke. He was really very charming and knew the right things to say at the right time. I was almost falling for him when he told me he had a girlfriend out of the country. I won’t lie to you, I was disappointed. I told him it was over but he would not understand why. He said that he loved me just like he loved this other girl in the USA and that it was like choosing Coke or Fanta. ‘You may decide to have both if you cannot choose one.’ That woke me up from my happily-ever-after dream.
I sincerely doubt that this guy loved me because he told me about the other girl. Heads up ladies, if a guy tells you he has another girlfriend, know you are the plaything. No matter what he tells you, this other girl is the person he is serious about, not you. You can stay on only if you want to have fun but do not delude yourself by thinking he will get rid of her and keep you. Anyway, the point I am making is this; guys are always out looking for new cows (women). A man may love one woman, but somehow is not satisfied with what he is getting from her and goes looking for new, not necessarily better, experiences.
Science explains that men can separate love and sex, but women cannot. When a man mates with woman, he goes home fine. He may enjoy sex time after time with this woman even when he is completely in love with another woman. The woman, on the other hand, starts to bond with the man. There is a certain hormone released in her brain and every time she mates with that particular guy, the effects of the hormone become more and more pronounced until she finds herself attached to this guy. For a woman, it may start off as fun but after a while, love enters the scene.
My good friend Johnnie told me of this older woman he had dated once. The woman had a stinking rich boyfriend who was always out of town. She was so lonely that she decided she needed male company while her boyfriend was out of town. That was how Johnnie entered the picture. The contract was just sex, no feelings. After about six months of ‘just sex’ this lady began to develop feeling for Johnnie. In fact, she got so jealous that she banned him from seeing his girlfriend.
Yeah, I can see you guys jubilating because you think your indiscretions are getting justified through The Old Cow Theory. I am quite sorry – or maybe not, to burst your little bubble of selfish bliss; this theory is for animals, not men.
With this theory in mind I bring up the comments I have been told this year from men…
- After the honeymoon phase most people get bored with the sex
- After a month or so of having sex with the same person you start to change your sexual wants and needs
- After a while your perspective on sex will change and you won’t want to have sex with me as much as you do at the beginning
Similar things like this have been said about your initial sex relationship from multiple different people…
I am NOT the typical gal. I have always had an extremely high sexpectation in EVERY relationship I have been in. Hell, I have high sexpectations without a relationship in my life! My sexpectations include sex daily if not more than once a day, lots of different positions, times of day, places, and more!
Leo has come the closest in my life to meeting my sexpectations although he says things like he knows I will change my feelings about sex. He keeps telling me that it happens with EVERYONE he has ever dated. They aren’t me… They are other females. Seriously? I am NOT the old cow ever! I am the new cow always! I like to bring excitement and freshness into every relationship I am in.
Fact is… We are human beings not cows. We are animals yes but we have brains that can out think every other animal on this earth!